Fear is the obstacle on our way to success we are going to analyze today.
Many people are blocked by fear, and fear has many faces.
Fear it’s a natural defense mechanism, directly linked to the survival instinct. It’s natural to be afraid if you’re a gazelle chased by a lion – it triggers adrenaline that helps you run faster and increases your chances to survive.
The problem occurs when the fear works against you. An IT engineer would say it’s a bug or virus that has corrupted fear’s correct algorithm and now we have to deal with all kind of fears of no use.
Let’s take a closer look:
Fear of the Unknown
The unknown may hide danger, but also the secret treasures of the future. This type of fear is a tool of your homeostasis mechanism, that prevents you from leaving the safe environment of what you know.
You know that your job sucks, but you also know everything and everybody, as you’ve been working there for 10 years, so you are afraid to change anything.
Fortunately, there are some people that fight this fear and push the mankind forward. If Cristofor Columb had gotten married, he would have had to answer his wife’s questions, “Where are you leaving?“, “With whom are you leaving?“, “Are there any women coming with you?” “When are you going to come back?” He would have decided that it was safe to stay home, America wouldn’t have been invaded and Trump wouldn’t be so happy.
Fear of Failure
We are afraid to take action because we might screw it up.
Any action has its risks, because you invest time, energy and/or money for a desired, but yet uncertain result. At this point, the level of fear is still acceptable, but when you have to risk something that you own, the fear increases. When you have to risk your safety (that damn monthly salary), the fear gets so strong that it usually pulls you back.
Fear of success
If you have success, your relations will change, and you are worried about the way that the people around you – parents, relatives, friends – will perceive you. Many people are scared to have success and sabotage themselves even before they get the success they say they want.
The list is larger than that. There is fear of rejection, of public speaking, of spiders or marriage.
How can we deal with our fears?
The most effective way to deal with an aggressive dog is to run towards it. You’re bigger and stronger and it will run away. Your fears must get the same approach (except the fear of marriage, though). Attack. Do it. Take action.